ok, thanks everyone for the replies...
so is what i should do...
1.tap those frets in (despite arbor suggestions, i can't afford it easily and will probably pass this time)
1.5. truss rod ajustments to level wood
2.level frets with that steel tube
(use that magic marker now?)
3.crown with those crowning files (the $35 ones, not the $95 ones)
i assume the steel tube takes the place of these: Fret Leveling Files
but what am i forgetting?
i'll take guitarfrenzys advise about a straight-egde, stew-mac's are fifty ****ing dolars.
i am getting a preslotted freboard- im not that crazy, this being my first neck.
radius block- i will be following the tutorial up here,
fret bending- i will probably follow the tutorial here too.
once again, many thanks and merry christmass to everyone.