I'd say that's a good attitude! Every time I see Dan Erlewine take a stone and a hammer to make dents on that freshly repaired and repainted vintage '53 Tele it hurts my soul. Same thing with the scraping he does for faking cracks. Oh come on! Cracks are cracks, scratches are scratches! If he wants the finish have cracks there's ways to crackle the finish naturally if the intention is to make the surface look old. Drawn cracks look drawn, you never can duplicate what 60 years of shrinking does to paint.
As you said, EVH gigged with that guitar for 6-7 years and despite cases and stands to keep it playable things happen. Sweat, dirt, sleeves and arms make a mildly abrasive and dissolving cocktail that can't be mimicked by towing behind a car. That subtle wear can be accelerated a lot with sandpapers of various grits but one should take into account that even the finest grits like 2000 are a long way coarser than the arm of EVH, bare or inside a sleeve.
Speaking about using a pebble to create a dent: I once laid an unopened ½ litre can of beer aside of my desk. Our house isn't the cleanest but we don't use outdoor shoes inside so the pinewood floor looked dusty at the very worst. Well, for some reason the can tilted and tipped on the side. Our cans are thicker than the American ones so you can imagine my face when I lifted the can: It started squirting beer all over the place from a tiny hole on the side! No way I could ever replicate that no matter how hard I tried!
Same thing with relicing, you never can duplicate a once in a lifetime oopsie. But you can speed the aging process by multiplying the wear and tear factors ten- or hundred fold. That's what they do when they test the durability of fabric or other surface materials. Heat, moist, UV light and mechanical wear magnified will speed the aging process of anything.